It’s the last week of the school summer holidays. I have to admit , sometimes I’ve wanted things to get back to normal so that I would get some time to myself, begin working on my plans .
I’m not sure whether school holidays should be a time when I get to paint more , because I’m not at my day job, or less, as it’s family time. .
I had to shake myself recently and remember that I purposely chose a job that was term time only so that I could be doing just this. ( I was sitting at the beach with friends watching children playing in the sea this afternoon) .
There will be time for painting and planning very soon- .
-and there is a play date planned for tomorrow. .
The four child/adult attachment styles are:
* Secure – autonomous
* Avoidant – dismissing
* Anxious – preoccupied
* Disorganized - unresolved
Adults with these attachment styles differ in a number of significant ways:
* how they perceive and deal with closeness and emotional intimacy.
* ability to communicate their emotions and needs, and listen to and understand the emotions and needs of their partners.
* modes of responding to conflict.
* expectations about their partner and the relationship (internal working models).
1. Secure Attachment
When children are securely attached to their caregivers (parents), they feel happy whenever their caregivers are around, but are upset when they get separated from them. While the child is in distress when his parent is away, still, he feels secured with the feeling that his caregiver will return sometime soon.
2. Ambivalent Attachment
A child who is ambivalently attached becomes very upset and sorrowful whenever he gets separated from his parent. The child does not feel that he can rely on his caregiver whenever he is in need of something.
3. Avoidant Attachment
Simply put, a child who has an avoidant attachment tends to keep away from his parents. Studies revealed that this may be a cause of parents who are fond of neglecting or abusing their children.
4. Disorganized Attachment
This is when there is no clear (or mixed) attachment between the child and his caregiver. When the parent acts as an apprehensive caregiver and a reassuring one at different times, the child may get confused and cause this kind of attachment.
The theory of attachment was originally developed by John Bowlby (1907 - 1990) Various people have contributed to gathering information. I love these images and content by @silvykhoucasian ✨💞✨💞✨💞✨
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New Podcast! 🎧 On today’s show, the question is, have you looked around your house, your garage, or your bedroom lately? Have you thought, what a mess? I sure wish someone would clean this up. Well, I'm not here to help you right now with cleaning those things up in the physical sense, but I am interested in wondering with you about what do we do when we look around our relationships.
Sometimes the holidays in December can bring to light the tensions of the past year and things that have gotten stuffed under a rug. So let's be brave and take a look back, see what things there are to clean up or straightened up. We're going to look at it from five different angles in terms of giving your relationship a bit of a new year checkup. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
✨ Reprocessing old memories - good and bad.
✨ Writing down actions and agreements.
✨ Getting back to the things you know work.
✨ Taking imperfect actions each day.
Listen in to learn how we can rediscover old stories that may have left us with discomfort or bad memories and how we can rework those to help our marriage. 💖
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